Accept Love in All Its Forms

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Let’s talk about embracing love in all it’s forms. You might imagine that a man like me has a few stories about love. A few wonderings and pondering and thoughts and imaginative abilities on the subject. Emotional experiences.

So I remember I was in England and there was a young lady who I liked very much. Let’s call her “River”. As it happened she had a boyfriend and I knew I was only gonna be in the country for a few months so it didn’t make sense to me to start a relationship.

Well one day I went to see her and after she left the cafe I sat down and started writing in my notebook. And I was amazed to find this outpouring of emotion. This love. I was suddenly writing a love letter and hadn’t even realized it.

When I finished the letter, I wrote a couple of drafts. I thought “This is the best thing I have ever written”.

I like to live by standards. One of the standards I live by is if I have something nice in my mind, a nice thought, then I want to say it. So I do my best to say something nice if it occurs to me.

And the nicer the thought, the more important it is to say it. Having this love letter in my hands I debated a little bit but I remember when I got to the letter box it was almost automatic. I made the decision long ago.

Now as it happened this love letter wasn’t fondly received. River had a boyfriend so it was a bit strange for me to be sending her love letters. But this love letter wasn’t an expression of selfish love, it was more this sort of divine love. Unconditional love without much egotism or selfishness to it.

When I sent it, she was quite disturbed by it. She told me later what had happened. She’s sitting there with this love letter from me on her desk and her boyfriend walked in. She said it was like a scene from a movie.

After that she stopped talking to me for a long time. 9 months later she told me she kept that letter in a little tin on her desk. And she pulled it out one day and read it.

And she told me “This was really beautiful what you said there.”

Now it’s funny because it was an expression of love she wasn’t ready to receive. It seemed unusual. It was unusual. Even I thought it was unusual.

And even so I thought it was right to express it and over time the truth of that love was revealed even to her and she understood what I was trying to express.

I remember another case I was in Chile and I met this lovely lady, let’s call her “Estrella”. After a couple of weeks of meeting her it was a little strange. We’d get very intensely involved and I said I was looking for a new AirBNB after seeing her maybe 4 times. She said “Come stay with me.”

I was like “Really? Are you sure you want to do this?”
And she was like “Yeah, come stay with me”.

And I stayed with her and we had a great time and I would cook for her. We would get into a lot of arguments. We are both quite headstrong people. She has a lot of opinions and I have a lot of opinions.

I wanted to continue my journey through Latin America, continue exploring the world. And she knew when I arrived that I was going to leave but when it came time to leave, she said “Stay”.

And I did stay a little longer, I stayed about a week. I put off taking my bus to Mendoza but in the end I said “I’m going to go, I’m going to go do what a man does.”

And she said “how can you say that you love me or that you care for me when you’re going to go. It’s a contradiction.”

I said “Very well, it’s a contradiction. Igualmente, voy a ir” Even so I’m still going to go, even still I care for you.

And it’s not really a contradiction. The thing is she had a very set idea of what love was. Very black and white. Either you love me completely and stay here with me and even get married with me. Or you go and that means you don’t love me and that you never loved me.

Now that puts you in a difficult position if you think about things in that way. That’s why I say embrace love in all it’s forms.

People aren’t necessarily going to love you in the ways that you expect or exactly the way that you want or the way that you love them.

When I was in Columbia I went to see my ex girlfriend, let’s call her “Cielo”. I cared for her very much and before I left we had some tender moments, intimate moments, emotionally I mean.

She did tell me in a certain way that she cared for me very much and I said the same. As I was leaving, I was very emotional. Very sad to be saying goodbye to her. When I was on the bus to Bogotá, it must have been one in the morning and I started writing a message to her.

And I said “Listen, I’ve loved you for years. I love you now. I can’t tell you the future and I think it’s likely that I will always love you. I don’t know what your goals are. I can’t say if they align with mine, they probably don’t. But I think I’ll regret it if I don’t ask this humble question…..”

“Will you marry me?”

And she didn’t respond right away. And I thought “Well, I’ll leave her to think about this and consider her response.

In the morning she did send me a message, she said “Thank you for your love. This unselfish love and thank you for caring about me despite the distance and thank you for sharing your feelings with me in this way.”

In the end she said that she wouldn’t marry me but she said that her home was always open to me. And that’s a beautiful thing when someone shares their home with you. It’s a beautiful form of love.

While I was a little sad about not quite reaching my highest expectations in this path, I was glad that I embraced love in this wonderful form.

Embrace love in all it’s form, embrace love when people love you in different ways. When people show you they love you through their speech, through their actions they do for you. Their tenderness their touch.

Embrace love in all it’s forms. Thank you so much for listening. thank you for thinking beautifully. Thinking outside the box and opening your mind to the bright shining light of the heavens that comes down through your chakras.

Have a great day I’ll talk to you soon.