Healthy Self-Love

Transcript

Welcome, beautiful thinkers!

Let’s talk about healthy self love.

The other day, I had this conversation with a friend of mine, I said to her I had been fasting for three days.

And I felt really good. gives my gut a break, my intestine, my stomach, all the digestive tract. So it can just relax for a few days, and have time to heal.

Because it doesn’t have anything else to do, just soak up good vibes, and become something become renewed.

And she said to me, “Oh, it sounds like a good idea. But I don’t think I could do that. Because I always have this fear of having my stomach empty.”

I said, “Really? Why would you have that kind of fear.”

She said, “It’s partly due to a fear of abandonment.”

She’s so worried that she’s going to feel empty physically, then it’s like, she’ll feel alone, she will feel like, there’s nothing to support her in this world, because she doesn’t have that food.

I guess there is this extreme case, I mean, we all know the expression “comfort food.”

And I guess we all, a lot of us engage in that.

So it was interesting, when she told me that I was moved.

And I said, “How lovely, that you love yourself so much, that you always want your belly to be full.”

Just like the kindness of have a stereotypical mother, always wanting to load a little extra onto your plate to make sure you are well fed, to make sure you are fit and healthy.

And I said to my friend, “That you know, of course, there are other ways to feel full.”

“If you feel full spiritually, then it won’t matter so much that your belly is not full.”

And she said, “Wow, that’s so right. Like there are so many ways. I can be doing yoga or meditation or basking in the sunlight, so many ways to feel full.”

A lot of the time, when we have a problem like this, like this fear of abandonment, or whatever it is,mit could be many things, all kinds of fears, sadness.

There is some underlying intention to it.

Like there is a reason, perhaps some sort of self protective mechanism.

We’re trying to keep ourselves well by doing these things.

But they can be maladaptive.

Probably at one point, these things served us very well, in the situations that we were in.

Those situations, perhaps no longer exist.

Or if they do still exist, we might be able to devise better methods to meet our needs.

And when we can meet our needs in healthy ways, we can find a path to growth and fulfillment.

So what is that path to feeling full?

How can you meet your needs in a way that truly serves you?

How can you experience healthy self love?