Let Go

Transcript

Let’s talk about letting go, letting go of people.

I was thinking about some friends I had in the past and the relationship had changed and maybe I had certain expectations about that friendship. I hoped we could be closer than we were. I had some idea, some idea put up on a pedastool about how our friendship could be greater than what it was.

And someone said to me…. “Love means many things.”

Love means letting go. So I’d like to say that there’s an act written on the final page of the book of love, let go.

Because you can’t save everybody, you can’t help everybody. Sometimes, unfortunately many times, if we try to allow people in our lives and we keep extending them compassion then it’s actually going to be to our own detriment.

It’s like what I mentioned in the previous episode about Dumb Compassion.

I found sometimes there are people in this world who are liars and I want to believe that they’re good people. I want to believe that there’s something good underneath and I find myself generally an honest person.

When someone lies to me and I try to ask them to explain it I think, I know what I would do if I were lying and someone confronted me about it. I would confess. There’s no way I would continue the lie but I’m not most people I guess.

Or I’m not this class of people. There are these certain types of people that when you confront them with a lie they just say another lie to cover it up. When you try to expose the inconsistencies in that lie then they say “You misunderstood, you must be confused. Or I misunderstood what you were saying.

They try to circle it all around to unleash this fog of war with their lies and then you’re left very confused and you wonder why it’s normally with this particular person that those misunderstandings happen so frequently.

Well it’s because the misunderstandings are deliberate because they’re trying to cover things up.

Of course when that happens I like to think “Well maybe I can give them one more chance.”

Because we all want to like people and believe that people are really good. But sometimes that’s not how things work and by continuing to extend our compassion we’re not actually helping people.

We’re actually enabling them because we overlook their flaws and lies and we try to forgive them and move past and give them one more chance and the next time maybe we give them one more chance again.

It never ends because they can always come up with more lies.

And these people take advantage of our good nature.

I don’t like to talk about it a lot obviously. Just what I said I’d like to believe people are good.

And those people probably are good in some ways but we can’t help them with compassion.

We must execute that act on the final page and let go.

Our compassion doesn’t serve them and only rewards their bad habits.

By letting go we can focus more on ourselves because many times it’s much more valuable to put your love and resources into something or someone where you know it will bear fruit.

And when you put that love into yourself it will almost always bear fruit.

If you love people to the detriment of yourself, the fruit will be rotten.

Love yourself first, to do that you must sometimes let go.

Now I do have to give this disclaimer because people have to be careful in life if you burn a bridge, sometimes a lot of the time people will regret burning the bridge.

So you do have to be careful. Sometimes you can quietly slip away from other people and you don’t necessarily have to be rude to them or confront them or something like that.

Of course there’s the chance you’re mistaken. Maybe they weren’t actually lying when you thought they were, so of course as always one must practice one’s discernment.

It’s a difficult path to tread, I have to give that disclaimer so people don’t take my advice, run off with it and start cutting off people left and right.

Don’t take my opinion so seriously but it is important if you love yourself sometimes you must let go.

Thank you for listening, thank you for being discerning in how you use your time and resources to better yourself and help the people around you in the best way you possible can.

Using your time where it will be valuable and valued.

Thank you, hope you’re having a a great day I’ll talk to you soon.