Lovely to Hear from You

Transcript

I’d like to talk to you about this phrase it’s lovely to hear from you.

I was thinking about something that happened a couple of months ago. Someone messaged me on Instagram after months of not having heard from her and it was with some sensitive topic. It seemed I had been implicated in some drama that was going on that perhaps I had done something to hurt her.

It was some rumor really nothing to do with me at all, I was innocent in this situation.

I said: Well let me explain. Its great to hear from you, irregardless of the circumstances. I explained what I had done and immediately partly because of the way I had plainly explained the facts and partly because my demeanor, she could tell I had no ill will towards her and that I wouldn’t have done such a thing and immediately the situation was resolved.

At least according to the extent of the actions that I could take. So this is interesting, sometimes if somebody comes to us, perhaps we haven’t spoken to them in a long time, perhaps there’s some bitterness or disappointment there. Perhaps we can still be happy.

Perhaps we can still enjoy someones company.

I remember many years ago, I think I’ve told this story before but I was in a night club and I saw this woman, I tried to ask her out sometime. I saw her in this nightclub and she waves at me or whatever and I think “Ugh, I kind of hate her, actually I don’t hate her I hate what she represents in this part of myself, this certain insecurity.

Good for me at least in that situation that I had the level of awareness to say it was not about the person, it was something about myself and at least according to the best of my abilities I did not treat her any differently in terms of what was going on within me.

There is this story about the Buddha where a man comes to him and finds out this man Siddhartha Gautama has been educating his son in this new religion or this fad and this man gets very angry and believes its a false teacher and he approaches the buddha and says “how dare you, how dare you lead my son astray?”

And spits in his face and the Buddha simply smiles and wishes him a good day, perhaps grabs a towel. After seeing that reaction the man walked away and he thought about it and he realized this man is not a false teacher. This is a true guru, a true teacher.

The next day he came back and said “I apologize, because now I can see that you are teaching good and that you are good at heart.”

And the Buddha simply said: Well, I’m afraid I cannot forgive you because the man you met yesterday is no longer here, he is gone. If I run into him I will send him your well wishes.

Now this is not to say that we shouldn’t have boundaries. Of course if people are really bad for us we can move away from them.

What if we can move away with them without anger remaining in our hearts. We know what is good for us, we exercise discernment, we do not have to hold on to disappointment, bitterness, rancor, grudges.

Those things float through us, the illuminating light, beams through the sahasrara chakra flowing through our body cleansing us of these residues, of these things remaining from times past and out they come through our trunk, through our legs, through our feet purified just as when the energy flows from the feet of the sadguru. Free clear and yes beaming with delight for life.

Then when someone approaches us after many years, whatever the circumstances of our farewell we say those words is lovely to hear from you.