Nobody Cares

Transcript

Welcome to a beautiful thought, how your life is already wonderful.

I’ve been thinking about this idea that nobody cares.

You might have seen the meme where it says at the top the “two faces of nihilism” or something like that. On the left there’s a guy that is all mopey like “nobody cares.”

On the right side the guys is all happy and beaming, these beams of light and a little halo and he’s like “Nobody cares!”

Alright so how do you want to interpret these things? How do you interpret something which could be seen as limiting or could be seen as liberating. I remember when I was in high school I would get really bothered by public speaking. Something I struggled with for a very long time as I’m sure most people do.

And at one point I realized, not that this completely alleviated my nerves but I noticed when someone else is speaking, people will kind of pay attention and show their respect for the person who is speaking. But really the only time they really notice is if someone really does a good job.

Its not like they’re sitting there thinking a person is making a fool of themselves. On some level they know what this person is doing up in front of the class is actually quite difficult being in front of so many people like that.

It’s not like anybody well maybe a few particularly cruel people would think this person is a fool, or they made a fool of themselves. A lot of the times they are on your side and they do care, I guess in some sense undermining the topic of my little speech here.

That reminds me of another point, another little story. My friend link would say to me sometimes when he’s onstage he might be improvising. Maybe something goes wrong with the sound. I don’t know why but it always seems to happen at these gigs. It was always a difficult thing to find the right sound guy to get everything plugged in on time or whatever it was.

Sometimes we’d just end up I would say I’m going to beatbox and you’re going to freestyle. People in the crowd couldn’t really tell the difference or they just thought ok this is part of the show. They kind of accept what you give them which is another way of looking at it.

Link would say to me “People in the crowd they are always on your side”. Sometimes he would mess up and forget a lyric and pick it back up and continue with the next line and deliver the punch line or final blow of the chorus or whatever it was. And people were like “yeah!”

They want to enjoy, they want to be on your side.

Or another way of looking at things. I used to watch these presentations by fellow named Eben Pagan. At the time he went by the name of David Deangelo, double your dating! A realtor I guess and he was very interested in interpersonal relations. He would give people advice on how to meet the opposite sex or how to interact with women was the basis of it.

He said: You might think everyone is watching you. When you go out in public and think people are gonna analyze, criticize. Be critical of my every move but that’s not really the case cause normally people are involved in their own thing. Just like when you go out on the dance floor and you wonder “Are my moves cool? Are people gonna be watching me? Are people laughing at me?”

You know that they’re not because everything is thinking the same thing.

Its the strange irony of the situation. What David Deangelo said why don’t you do this as a practical exercise? Go out to a bar and sit at the bar and maybe you have a drink in front of you. Maybe you just sit there with your notebook and sit there staring into space.

After about 5 hours of sitting there that it doesn’t matter to anybody. If someone tries to come up to you and pick a fight or make a joke at your expense, that would be rather rare. Normally the thing that would happen more likely would be someone would come over and say “why don’t you join us?”

Depending on the part of the world you are in, the city and the local environment, that’s something that’s happened to me many many times.

People don’t really mind so much. We expend so much energy trying to outthink people, trying to second guess what people might think.

Of course its important to be aware of the local culture and the norms so we don’t make people uncomfortable necessarily.

But in general in a lot of societies there is a large degree of freedom and self expression. When you do something cool, that is generally when people will notice. So that’s the message.

Nobody cares. Thank you for not placing an undue amount of attention or thought process on the attention that other people give you because you can express yourself quite freely. You can be yourself and find that special voice inside of you and speak that truth from that part that so hopefully wants to express itself.