Episode 22

Search for the Perfect Woman
Antonio

Finding the right partner can be difficult. Even knowing the qualities to look for in a partner is difficult. Then, once you’ve thought about what you want in a partner, you might apply the standards too tightly or too loosely.

In this episode, Kurt conducts a cognitive behavioral session with his friend Antonio – going through the four key questions from Gerard Egan’s “The Skilled Helper”:

What’s on your mind?
What is the real challenge?
What do you want?
How might you achieve it?

Antonio opens up about the current issues he has in his life, with Kurt attempting to gently lead him to insight. They end up talking about Antonio’s romantic life, what he expects in a partner, and how clarifying his expectations might help make his dream relationship a reality.

Note: Kurt doesn’t normally record CBT sessions. In this case, Kurt asked Antonio’s permission to record, and then later confirmed that he was comfortable with it being published.